LETTERS: September 8th Issue
Re.: Can Oregon Schools Reboot?
It has been my experience (part-time college instructor) that the 2+2 program (or something like it) is the way to go, if possible. Students attend high school and take community college classes simultaneously, and graduate potentially, with a high school diploma and a two-year college degree. Education has to change to support the new generations of students who learn in many different ways. It appears to me that sitting in a classroom all day, listening to lecture, is no longer their world. I’ve been very impressed with the 2+2 students; in my experience, they have been diligent and hardworking. I also feel these young adults like to be trusted, which comes from being in an adult learning environment. The “older” students are usually amazed at their abilities.
– Ginger G
Re.: Medford Blues
Hello, scrolling through your list of things to do in Medford, and wow how boring can you be! Everything on your list is as boring as watching grass grow. When will some excitement and adventure come to Medford? You have to be 50 years old or older to enjoy most of these events… Its sad Medford is that cheap!
– Jason, firstname.lastname@example.org
Banned Book Week
What Do These Books Have in Common? The Bible, Harry Potter, To Kill Mockingbird, and 50 Shades of Grey.
All have been banned!
To note “Banned Book Week” at the Medford Public Library (Sept. 22 – October 1), the Messenger is asking our readers: Do you have a story about a banned book? What would the world be without a specific book that has been banned? Check out the list of banned and challenged books at ALA.org, and write a short note, story or argument (250 words or less) about why one of your favorites reads should not be banned.
Selected letters will be published in our September 22 issue. The winning letter receives a $50 gift certificate to the Friends of the Medford Library Book Shop, plus a one-year Friends of the Medford Library membership; two noted letters each receive a one-year Friends of the Library membership and a free book from the Friends Book Shop.
Send entries to: Editorial@RogueValleyMessenger.com before 5 pm Friday, September 16.
Hey Messenger: My fiancé is from a privileged family, to the point that he was spoiled (had nannies, maids, etc). Now that he lives with me, I find myself having to pick up after him and teach him to do normal adult chores. I don’t think it’s too much to ask? But he makes me feel like a nag and like these things are unreasonable. Should I expect him to adapt to adult life outside of mommy and daddy’s house, or am I destined for a lifetime of cleaning up after a man-child?
Dear Lynn, I had one of these once. It only lasted nine months. The cool thing about relationships is that they form this third entity existing between, around, and even inside the two people. While the two individuals are rarely wrong or bad in and of themselves, the entity can be, depending on the unique combination of the individuals in question. For me, it could not work with the man-child because it made me excessively angry and thus created a thoroughly negative third entity.
On the notion of expectations or his ability to learn, I would not put too much faith in that as a solution (although it is still a great goal). Even if he does learn a few things from you, he will likely never be that different from how he was raised. It will be a struggle for a long time. You also need to consider that as relationships progress, tolerance for things like this generally wanes. For example, a pair of dirty socks on the floor in 2017 is likely to make you just as angry as the six pairs of socks on the floor in 2015. Do you see what I mean? Even if he does learn a few things, it will be just enough to keep your anger level at a constant level, best-case scenario, UNLESS you make a conscious choice to accept his faults, continue to teach with love and compassion, and communicate to find ways that he can make it up to you.
Hey, Messenger: I’m a truck driver, and I recently made a delivery to a grocery warehouse in New Jersey. Grocery warehouses are notorious for wasting a driver’s time, but luckily they only wasted four hours of my time at this particular location and received $60.00 in detention pay…and 30 pounds of coffee! The expensive stuff.
Normally drivers do not get paid with the goods we deliver, but if there are any damages, even if it’s just the cardboard boxes holding the product, the consignee will refuse to accept whatever is damaged. In this occasion for refusal, it happened to be two cases of gourmet coffee, and the only thing wrong with the coffee was… NOTHING! That’s right, nothing was wrong with the coffee but the boxes were crushed; possibly from some overworked and underpaid warehouse worker wanting to take a break and used them to sit his fat ass upon.
But back to the warehouse in Jersey: After they unload me I receive my bills and didn’t notice anything written on the bill of lading. Normally shortages, overages or damages are noted. So I go to close my trailer doors and notice two boxes sitting in the back. I automatically knew what was up, so I called my boss to let him know. He tells me, “Put them in your cab and I’ll let you know what to do with them.”
So I throw them in the cab of my truck, and without thinking about it, I open one of the bags. The aroma wafted through my truck, and I couldn’t help myself. I put a little in my mouth to taste, because I had never had this blend before, and then I thought, “you idiot, you moron! Your boss said to put it in your truck, and then he’ll tell you what to do with it.”
But it all went through as I expected and he told me to “dispose of damages.” Now I would have to be an even bigger idiot to throw it away than I was in eating it. So, nope, not throwing it away. I know how many these large companies and corporations waste goods that are perfectly fine. And I also know it’s also considered theft if you don’t throw it away. However, I’m now sitting with 30 pounds of coffee, which equals out to almost $400 retail, that I don’t know what to do with. So my question is this: What can I do with 30 pounds of coffee?
P.S. I find it ironic that New Jersey recently passed a law that makes it illegal to drink coffee and drive.
Dear Mr. J.: That’s quite the story. Personally, I would have done the same, as I too love coffee and would hate to see it go to waste. Are you the giving type? If so, I would suggest giving some of those bags to a local charity group. If you are the capitalist type, you could always list them on Amazon or Ebay and make maximum profits. If you are just hell bent on keeping them all out of some kind of “people make me wait all day” truck driver spite, then look up a zillion delicious coffee recipes and get to work. Also, New Jersey sounds crazy based on that law alone!