Taking a Deep Breath as the School Year Starts: Finding Balance in Times of Change
Do you feel unstable by the winds of change? Are you living the life you want? Or do the multitude of societal and inner changes, create enormous uncertainty. Many people feel this lack of stability and are searching for something to hold onto. How can we find balance in times of great change?
Begin with a steady practice that creates a place of balance. Meditation, tai chi, qi gong, walking, affirmations, and/or mindfulness can help one maintain a sense of inner balance. The intention behind your practice determines its success. Practice takes commitment and it needs to become a regular routine in order to create a supportive foundation.
In addition to these practices, we all need to feel loved. Create a loving support network to carry you through these challenging times. We need each other and we need to surround ourselves with the loving support of people, activities, and daily practice to sustain us through these times.
Do things that nurture yourself. Self-care needs to become a primary focus, for without it, we are not in balance. We are constantly making choices. Peace or anguish is a personal choice. Which lifestyle do you choose to carry you through the changing currents?
Balance can be sustained with a sense of inner peace when we take responsibility for our lives. It is easy to blame another person or situation when things do not go our way. Allow peace to become your centerline. If you feel angry about something, feel it and let it go. Holding onto anger will only make it worse. As Pema Chodron, Buddhist teacher, talks about in the Shenpa Syndrome: if you scratch and pick at a thought, it will bleed, just as if you were to scratch and pick at your skin. The more you scratch it, the worse it will get. Pema says, “Learning to recognize shenpa teaches us the meaning of not being attached to this world… being hooked by what we associate with comfort. All we’re trying to do is not to feel our uneasiness. But when we do this we never get to the root of practice. The root is experiencing the itch as well as the urge to scratch, and then not acting it out.”- See more at: http://www.awakin.org/read/view.php
Learning to watch your life as a movie, and become the observer, is another life practice. Detachment allows you to do this. If you feel uncertain or uptight, breathe love and peace into your body or focus on something that calms you down and returns you to inner stillness. Watch the drama and do not get caught in its web. Go for a walk, breathe some fresh air, or jump into a river to cleanse your body. Every moment spend in anguish is precious time you are not at peace or in love.
Bring color into your daily practice. If you need to cool down, wear some soft blue tones. When you are in need of energy, orange or yellow are great colors. And when you need passion and/or power, bring some red into your life. If you are in a sticky situation it would be appropriate to focus on purple and see a purple wave of transformation, shift the energy. Additionally, I like to include an array of color in my diet to nourish all organs and bodily functions.
In addition to developing a practice that works for you, balance can be sustained with understanding. The more we understand each other and appreciate the complex roles we play in our families and societies, the more we are able to support each other in rising to be the best we can be. May we look into each other’s hearts and souls and see there … ourselves.